You may feel that you are struggling in all of your relationships- romantic, your parents, with family, and friends. You weren’t close with your parents growing up. Now that you are transitioning to adulthood you may even start to be realizing why. Managing these relationships feels hard it’s easy to be unsure how to do that.
When dating or looking for a romantic relationship, you find yourself with partners who seem to have the same unfulfilling traits your parents did. You give, give, give, but feel you aren’t receiving anything back. Seeking a healthy relationship pattern feels exciting but you don’t know where to begin. Maybe you struggle with believing you deserve to be in a healthy relationship because you have so many negative thoughts about yourself.
Boundaries? You’ve heard of them but putting them into place to get your needs met feels scary and overwhelming. Memories from the past continue to pop up right when you thought you were done with them. Friends are helpful sometimes, but other times they also don’t show up in your life the way you hoped they would. Feeling let down by relationships is a feeling you’re sick of having.
When my clients come to my first session, they can expect to have a 50-minute session where we get to know each other. Like all relationships, we don’t have much if we don’t have trust. I take that seriously and will begin to earn your trust in that first session. We will discuss why you’ve come to therapy and what you would like our sessions to looks like. We will review how long you’ve been experiencing being unhappy with yourself and in relationships so we can get a better understanding of the work we have to do together. Many clients come to me because they want to feel proud of themselves and their relationships. You know why you’re here. I know how to help you. It’s that simple. We may talk about the big things you thought you weren’t ready to talk about; we may talk about the guy who cut you off in traffic today and how that made you feel. In session, you’re guiding the conversation.
Therapy may be for you if:
- You feel nervous about letting people in emotionally and physically
- You notice your relationships aren’t fulfilling
- You’re repeating patterns that you don’t know how to change
- There isn’t anyone you feel you can tell your whole truth to
- Past experiences feel like they are still very much in the present
- Setting boundaries in relationships feels terrifying or puzzling
- You find your parents are difficult and you’re unsure how to manage your relationship
My goal for my clients is to help you work through the things holding you back from being the person you want to be (and maybe making sure that idea is realistic!). We’ll meet for your initial intake session to get a sense of what your needs are and where I can help. I’m excited to help clients who want to have happy, healthy, and positive relationships in their close circles. I love helping people who want to dig in, do the work, and get excited about their future. What we process in therapy is 100% confidential. You may feel vulnerable initially, but our pace, what you disclose, and how we approach solutions and coping is up to you. I will challenge you (but not like with a math problem or something) and help you find the tools you need to be a happier you.